For the rest, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things (fix your minds on them). -Philippians 4:8 (Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer)
Do you want a new life? Do you want new and changed conditions? Do you want happiness? Peace in your life? Perhaps you are trying to manifest all sorts of goodies.
I wrote a book titled The Joy and Work of Manifesting a Good Life. Many of us want to just make dream boards and God boxes, to write out lists of wishes in pink sparkle pen and then sit back and have it all unfold by the next day. Welllll…it takes work. It can be fun, exciting work and it will benefit all areas of your life but there are some actions that have to occur to recreate or build a new life.
The thing that isn’t really discussed with Manifestation is the emotional toll that it may take. This isn’t with everyone but it does happen to those of us on “the journey”. We start out with excitement at all the great things we are going to co-create with this bountiful Universe. It’s all fun and party horns for a bit. Then the s–t hits the fan. When you pray for change you get it and what a ride it is! Everything has to be shaken up inside your heart and outside in your life. Some things must be destroyed before there is even room for the new. Our egos have to be dismantled, our old thoughts have to be tossed out, past wounds healed, amends made…we are being rebuilt from the ground level up.
How can you get that new and wonderful relationship if you are a mess? No one with their life together and mind right will want to be yolked with a person in turmoil. You have a process to get your mind right.
How can you go from a studio apartment to that dream home you want…it may take time. You may need to find out your truest and deepest issues that hold you back from abundance, you may realize that you come from a thinking of lack and failure and have to heal that and go on to re-educate yourself, get a better job and eventually the dream home will come but there will be work and healing along the way. You WILL make it if you choose but it’s not always a short or simple path.
Why not? Abraham makes everything sound so easy like you just need to relax, have fun, that it isn’t work. The work is in your mind. Many people aren’t happy today because of what is in their minds, how they think, old beliefs they still hold. You have to clean out the attic.
I love Philippians 4:8 because it has the answer. It is simple; what you put your mind on, what you spend your days and nights pondering…that will be your life reflected on the outside. Your life will be a physical manifestation of what goes on in your mind. The hard part is getting there from a dark and unhappy, negative place to a happy place filled with sunshine. That is the work. And yes, dream boards and God boxes make the journey more fun and fun is what you DO want to focus on. It takes a lot of practice and focus on staying happy and along the way, as we pay attention to what we are thinking, we see why our lives don’t work the way we want. Then there is more work in healing what is not in harmony.
I started out recently on a big journey of self-reflection and desiring so many new and wonderful things for my family and self. Then along the journey, I found I had to go back into my past and make some major amends and right some old wrongs. Some responded well and I’m working on healing a couple old relationships. Some have not responded and that is as it should be for reasons I may never understand but I trust that God is at the helm and will filter out the bad fish with His net. Only the good will come through for that is my intention. However, I was being guided to do my part to do the right thing. You see, along with the new home and success in my writing career and other things, I also want to be a good person, I want a deep connection with God, to work and build with the Universal powers, to be the kind of Christian that makes being a Christian look amazing and good. The kind of Christian that people dream of being. This is a great feat.
And so I had an awakening of consciousness and with it I was directed to fix my past, heal where I had cause pain to others, apologize for wrongs committed even decades ago. I tried to ignore it but I started having chest discomfort, breathing issues, and nausea. I was physically miserable and, although my aunt suggested taking an aspirin a day and going to the doctor, I knew what the problem was. I was being guided and I was not doing the work and I’m at the advanced level where I will actually experience reprecusion if I don’t keep going forward and if I ignore what I’m guided to do. Sure enough, I wrote several amend letters and sent them. The pains and breathing issues, nausea all stopped.
Did I count on all this drama when I wrote the list for the new town and new house and success? No, but obviously it is the work that has to be done before I can start preparing for a new life that comes with the new desires. When you want your house to look different you can’t just make a list, pray, and leave the house. You may have to clean, rearrange the furniture, and paint.
Years ago when I was still single and childless I prayed for a husband and my own family. I had been begging and praying for years without success. I kept getting the message as to what I had to do to make it happen but I wasn’t ready to do all that it required. I needed to quit all my nasty habits and get my mind right. It took me years to submit. I used to love smoking cigarettes and pot, drinking good wine and beer on the weekend. I was a loser in many ways. I was a slave to my habits and had no self-respect because of all the times I had tried to quit and failed. I also had no spiritual program.
In my late 30’s I started attending and taking classes through the Center for Spiritual Living. I took months and months of classes on healing, prayer, meditation, and self-reflection. I also got sober and started to eat healthier and exercise. I had a lot of physical issues from the years of neglect and poor habits. My acupuncturist put me on the Paleo before it was even popular. Things began to heal mentally and physically. Then my mother became ill and was ready to pass on. I went up to be with her and had the biggest healing and forgiving ever. I was completely transformed by the experience. I had been prepared with all the classes I was guided to do and getting sober and then my moment came with her and it all came together. It was beautiful.
After that my life took off, I got great jobs and homes, got married to a really good and solid man, had two adorable boys chalked full of personality. I’m now a homemaker, mother, and writer. All I ever wanted and more. But it has been a long journey. I had to do the work to become that person that can live this life I have currently.
My advice is, don’t get too caught up in the frilly, sparkle of manifesting that is so popular today. Realize that there will be some work and most of that work will be cleaning up and healing your mind. Listen to that quiet guidance. You have guides and they are trying to communicate with you. Pay attention. It comes in the form of a movie that triggers a thought, a paragraph in a book that speaks to you, a song, a conversation. You ask the questions and they will come. Enjoy the process. It is truly magical and lovely. Embrace it and flow with it. Don’t fight it or it will just get harder and you will stagnate. Or worse get chest pains.
Make a commitment. Don’t waiver back and forth. Commit to healing and becoming happy and then do everything you have to in order to make it happen.
A few tools I use to do the work:
Battlefield of the Mind, by Joyce Meyer (great book for Christians and nonChristians if you don’t have issues with the Bible)
The Secret (the movie, it’s fun, but remember it takes much more work than this)
Peaceful Warrior (a movie that helps us understand just how the journey to empowerment can go)
Autobiography of a Yogi and Journey to Self-Realization, both books are by Paramahansa Yogananda
The Bible, of course. You’ll see a lot of scripture on metaphysics and manifesting our realities.
The Law of Attraction, by Esther and Jerry Hicks (you can also find them on YouTube)
The Joy and Work of Manifesting a Good Life, by Kate Singh