Many people are waking up to a new reality that was brought on by the Covid 19 and sheltering in place. We have some big happenings in history right now with the protest and record high unemployment, renewed concerns over the environment, corruption in the governments globally, injustice, prejudice, fear of a virus…it goes on. This may be a scary time for most but I assure you it’s just a birth and with a birth come birthing pains.
And then a new life to behold and adore.
It is an awakening of humanity. What that means to each individual is your own personal story. Only you know how this is effecting you, the thoughts your having, the old desires resurfacing.
I used to have a bumper sticker on my car, “Remember what you wanted to be when you grew up?”
This shelter in has been a blessing in many ways. Even in the darkness of it, the loneliness, the depression…it can and has offered a new awareness in most of us. An awareness that we were working too hard, not having time for family or friend, that we may have forgotten our dreams and truest wishes for our lives, that we are just pushing ourselves to the brink of insanity or death due to stress and unhappiness.
Now, some are drinking themselves silly and some have decided to completely remove themselves from this life. That is a little deeper than I’m willing to go right now. I want to focus on those of you that are looking at your life deeply and deciding that your joys, your family, your forgotten crafts and talents are more important than that office job or large paycheck. Or two paychecks.
But what if you are just barely making it on two paychecks and you have made the big decision to have one of you stay home? Or you are single and barely making it on that one paycheck on full time work?
Downsize and trim, trim, trim.
I had a woman write the other day telling a story of her families experience getting out of debt. They had a big life with a big house and huge debt. Her husband suggested they sell it all and downsize to a one bedroom apartment in a not so desirable neighborhood. She was not on board at first but agreed to it. The two boys had the one bedroom and she and her husband slept on a pull out couch. They lived like this for a few years. Now, you may think this sounds just miserable but I think it sounds very cozy and primed for some hidden gifts. The mother said it was some of the best years.
We know what it’s like to live a very humble life. We also know the blessings that come with it. You wouldn’t know this unless you have been there. Only when you make big “sacrifices” and go deep into a simple lifestyle do you find the hidden kingdom.
Make a decision right now as to what is most important to you and your family. You don’t need more time to mull it over, you’ve known for years. What will you give up for your dream or your family?
I would throw out that large house with the large mortgage first thing (if it doesn’t have a large mortgage or it’s paid off disregard that completely). Then I would get rid of leased cars or cars with car payments. I would cut up credit cards and stock up on flour, grains, beans, and learn some scratch cooking. I would plant a huge garden and fruit trees.
If you have a home with land, even a decent sized back yard, plant a garden, food trees (nuts, fruit, whatever grows in your area), get rabbits, chickens, ducks, honey bees. Fill your empty backyard with abundance. Make sure you study and learn first and get support or you may have a lot of dead trees, plants and animals on your hands. Educate and then get a move on it.
If you are in serious debt, it may be time to take a huge jump out of your life and all you own. Downsize to that tiny apartment and commit to a year or two to get out of debt. A debt free life is amazing beyond words. It is free of all stress…most all stresses.
Learn to fix cars and homes by hand. Decorate on a tiny budget by using old paint in the garage or finding it at recycling centers. Get furnishings and kitchen tools at the thrift, hospice, or Goodwill.
Find books such as The Complete Tightwad Gazette or The Heart Has Its Own Reasons.
Learn to shop differently. To cook from simple ingredients. Join co-ops for organic foods. You can eat much better quality and delicious foods at home than at a restaurant.
Learn to play cards and board games.
Home school and raise your children outdoors in nature instead of in front of computer screens and on iPhones.
Now is a time for big, huge change. Remember, fear is false and only being stagnate will be our demise.